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Divorce of believer
Couple questions divide today powerfully the believers and those things are divorcing of a believer and remarry. I have studied this thing many years, prayed and studied, so that I could advise believers on this very painful area. Many believers are in a deep wound with this matter. I'm married, and I have never experienced divorce, but this painful matter touch heart of many people, and so that's why I have spent very much my time, to get find out the Bible teaching about divorce and remarry. Next I share with you my research results.The divorce and remarries
Matthew 19:3-12 This Bible place indicates to us, so that Jesus gave permission to divorce after adultery has taken place, and He also gave permission for innocent one (who has not committed adultery) to remarry. The Pharisees asked from Jesus, so that is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every reason? In other words, abandon to their wife. What was the reason that this kind of What was their motive to this question? If Pharisee knew that divorce wasn't possible, they hardly would ever have asked that Pharisees knew that divorce is possible. Purpose of the Pharisee question was exposed in answer of Jesus. The Pharisees asked their question, because they wanted to tease Jesus and for this reason, they wanted to know did Jesus allow divorce and remarry. Question of the Pharisee was that "Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?" Jesus said that God has created a man and woman, that these two would come one flesh. What God has joined together, that can’t a man put asunder. The will of God is permanent and lasting marriage, and divorce wasn't plan of God, but permanent relationship. When sion to his , the Pharisees Moses commanded to give a writing of divorcement, whereupon was permission to his wife. Jesus said, because of the hardness of your hearts Moses suffered and allow you to put away your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. The to the world because of the sin. Then Jesus said: " Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery." Jesus said, so that only for the fornication you can abandon your wife and remarry. When adultery has taken place, innocent party can divorce and remarry. You can remarry only if fornication has taken place, otherwise you are doing fornication. Many believers are pushing by others and being guilty with other person sins in the way how some teach; if his spouse has fornicated, innocent party can't no longer remarry, he has to stay alone or if adulterer returns, then they can continue their marriage. However, Jesus said clearly, that if adultery has taken place, innocent party could divorce and remarry. However, what Jesus said, I will put it in this way, that you understand what Jesus said: “Whosoever shall put away his wife and shall marry another except it be for fornication committeth adultery”. You can put away your spouse and divorce and remarry only if your spouse has done adultery. This doctrine supporter teaches that you can't marry the one who is put away, in other words, the abandoned one. This Bible verse is their argument: Matthew 19:9; whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. The Bible place is correct, but in this place put away person is not the innocent party, but adulterer. Jesus said that you can't put away your wife no other reason, but because of the adultery. Adulterer is according to Bible teaching the put away person and not the innocent person. If adultery takes place so to the innocent party remain three alternatives: 1. Adulterer can return and regret and marriage can return as before if the innocent one wants adulterer back. 2. The innocent one remains to live alone. 3. The innocent one can remarry. If it is will of God and not our carnal desire, but guidance of God.To the adulterer remains two alternatives: 1. Repentance and return if the innocent one still accepts him/her back. 2.If marriage not returned as before, so adulterer would stay alone. And the adulterer no longer rights to marriage. If it happens that the innocent one doesn't take back adulterer. Adulterer seldom is obedient to the word of God. However, unfortunately almost always adulterer continues adultery in the new marriage. The instructions to the innocent one: Do not do in the flesh your solutions, but pray and use time, so that you will find out will of God. Three alternatives stayed to the innocent one in other words; the marriage can still go on, remarry, staying alone. Innocent one have to pray and search honestly that what is the will of God in this kind of situation. Situation of the innocent one is difficult, but the Bible urges to us the forgiveness. Our flesh can't forgive such crookedness, but believer is filled with Holy Spirit and through the life in the Holy Spirit we have the ability to forgive also this kind of crookedness.Cause her to commit adultery Matt 5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.Right here Jesus said, that whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causes her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committed adultery .The spouse has not permission to abandon except for fornication. So in this case again you can put your spouse away only because of adultery. Put if you put him/her away not for the fornication you are driving her/him to make fornication, because the marriage is still valid, because there is no fornication, and you can’t put away your spouse except for the fornication. And that person who marries the put away person without reason of fornication makes fornication with him/her, because put away person has not done fornication against her/his spouse. Put away person without fornication should return to his/her spouse. And we cannot put away our spouse without reason of fornication. This bible place speaks a woman as put away person and if man put her away without fornication, so who marry her commit adultery. If you abandon your spouse without adultery, then you expose your spouse to temptation for adultery and remarry. But remarry is lawful only if adultery has taken place. But we have no rights to abandon our spouse, when there is no fornication. But if we abandon our spouse without fornication, in this case the spouse can fall to fornication and remarry. There is no basis of divorce without adultery. Whosoever put away his wife, and marries another, committed adultery Luke 16:18Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery. Many are thinking about it, that this place cancels Matthew 19:9. But Jesus is not in conflict with Himself. This place teaches, that who the put away person has been put away for the reason of adultery and remarrying with the adulterer is fornication. We must remember that only reason to put away the spouse was fornication, and so put away person is the adulterer, not the innocent one, otherwise Jesus is against Himself with Matt 19:9. However, because Matt 19:9 Jesus Christ gives the rights to divorce and remarry when adultery has taken place, so the put away person must be the adulterer, because adultery was the only put away the spouse, and we cannot put away our spouse from another reason as adultery.Fornication Mark 10:12 "And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery."You can only put away your spouse because of adultery . In this verse if woman put away her husband and she can’t remarry, it means that her husband hasn't done adultery and in this case putting away is wrongly. Putting away of the spouse and remarry without that spouse has fornicated is adultery. Remember that Jesus Christ gave for only reason to put away the spouse that he/she has done fornication.1 Cor 7:10,11 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.The will of God is, that those who are married are not allowed to divorce. However, if someone divorces without fornication, so then must remain as unmarried or to agree matters and return to the marriage. In this case when is not adultery, but because of the other reasons has come divorce, so then neither party must not search new spouses, but then must be as unmarried and try to agree matters and return to the marriage. The will of God is, that marriage is valid, when there has not happened fornication. And if fornication happens, one very good alternative is that adulterer repents and asks forgiveness and the innocent one would forgive. However, the best solution is that neither one would not commit fornication, because it is will of God that the marriage is holy and to holiness do not belong to sinful actions as fornication. 1 Cor 7:13-15 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. If a believer lives with unbeliever, who agrees live with a believer, so the Bible teaches that believer can't in this case abandon his/her spouse. However, if an ungodly spouse wants to divorce, so then a believer is free from this marriage. The Bible gives in this kind of case to believer rights to divorce. And a believer is not anymore enslaved to this marriage. Can this kind of believer remarry? When Bible gives rights to divorce, so then that marriage has been canceled, and it can't no more bind and enslave believer to that marriage and in my opinion, he/she is also free to remarry, because the Bible says that in this case the marriage has been canceled. That which has been canceled can't anymore control or rule our life, but have been thrown out from our life. If you are not in faith and have been married and after that you come to believe to Jesus Christ, but your ungodly spouse doesn't come to the faith. If your spouse wants to live with you, the marriage should be continued. However, if your ungodly spouse doesn't want to live with you, so you can divorce your spouse and the Bible gives you the right divorce in this kind of situation. When you are a believer and not married, so believers are not wise marry unbelievers, 2 Cor 6:15. If you are Jesus' disciple and not married and want to marry, so pray God that He guided into your life a believer spouse..The wife is bound, so long as her husband lives 1 Kor 7:39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.The spouse is bound to his/her spouse so long as another dies, and then he is free to marry, when it happens in guidance of God. This is God's will, to this the will of God, we found from the Bible only two exceptions because of the sin, adultery gives the rights to divorce and if an ungodly spouse wants to divorce.. When adultery gives right to cancel the marriage, so the marriage is not anymore valid. When the marriage has ended lawful, because of adultery, so then there is not anymore husband and wife and not that marriage. And so we noticed, that this Bible place doesn't forbid remarry, if the fornication has happened. Because there is not anymore questioning from husband and not from the wife, when marriage has been canceled lawful, because of adultery. However, if there is not adultery, so then there is no basis to divorce and both are bound with one another as the husband and the wife, and they can't remarry with other people as long as the spouse is alive.But when adultery has taken place and divorce has come, so why you bind the innocent one to the marriage, which is not existed and has ended according to the teaching of the Bible? Do you think that if a spouse has done adultery and divorce has come, so God shall punish the innocent one by adulterer's sin adulterer’s sin? Think in the accurate way about the character of God and think that shall He punish you from others' sins, which you have not done? Adulterer can’t remarry, but the innocent one can if it happens in the Lord. Final comment: The will of God is that divorce must not take, except as the exception of the sins and cases, which we have handled before. Before when we have not been believer divorces and remarries can be truly loopy and difficult cases, because children can be already for the many directions and can be many marriages and divorces. In the most of the cases then is best continuing in the position where you are or then God can lead you and return best possible solution to you. To the first marriage God can sometimes return the spouses, but often there is no return to this first marriage. When a person comes to the faith, so then he gets to know what is the will of God. Believer learns to know the will of God. And they can't do fornication, but if someone falls into fornication, he/she must repent and receive consequences what this sin brings to their live. The will of God is to us always the best will, so let's search for what is the will of God, and it is not fornication but pure and holy marriage.
Petri Paavola from Finland (Scandinavia North Europe) |
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